Narrations Of The Salaf Concerning Friendship, Companionship and Acquaintance

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Narrations Of The Salaf Concerning Friendship, Companionship And Acquaintance

On the authority of Abee Hurayrah, رضي الله عنه who said, “The Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم said,

“A person is upon the Deen of his friend. So let each one of you look to whom he keeps as a friend.” [Reported by Ahmad (2/303), Aboo Daawood (no.4812) and at-Tirmidhee (no.2484).]

And al-Imaam Muhammad bin Seereen (م سنة 101هـ) also said

“Indeed this ‘Ilm (knowledge) is the Deen (Religion) so look and see from whom you are taking your religion.”

And al-Imaam al-’Aalim, Aboo ‘Abdir-Rahmaan ‘Abdullaah bin Shawdhab al-Balkhee al-Basree (م سنة 156هـ) narrated from Ayyoob as-Sakhtiyaanee (م سنة 131هـ) who said,

“Verily, it is from the happiness of a hadath (youth and minor) and ‘ajamee (non-Arab or foreigner) that Allaah guides them to a Scholar from the people of Ahlis-Sunnah.”

And on the authority of al-Imaam al-Haafidh, Aboo ‘Abdillaah Dhamarah bin Rabee’ah al-Filisteenee ar-Ramlee (م سنة 202هـ) from Ibn Shawdhab (رحمهم الله تعالى) who said,

“Verily, it is from the ni’mah (bounty and favor) of Allaah upon a youth, that when he devotes himself to worship he befriends a righteous person of the Sunnah who teaches and carries him upon it,”

Yoosuf bin Asbaat (رحمه الله ) said,

“My father used to be a Qadaree and my maternal uncles used to be Raafidhees, then Allaah saved me through Sufyaan (ath-Thawree).” [Reported by al-Laalikaa’ee (numbers 30-32) in his Sharh ‘Usoolil-I’tiqaad.]

Aboo Moosaa (رضي الله عنه) narrated that the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said,

“The example of the Saalih (good and righteous) companion and as-Saw’i (an evil one) is like the one who carries misk (perfume in his store) and another who blows into bellows (as a blacksmith). So the one carrying the misk will either present you some as a gift or you will (be inclined to) buy some from him, or you would leave from him with a reehaan tayyib (good and pleasant fragrance). As for the one who blows into bellows, he will either burn your thiyaab (garments) or you will get a reehaan kareehah (smokey foul smell) from him.” [As-Saheehayn -al-Bukhaaree (no.5534) & Muslim (no.1779).]

And the noble Shaykhah (female scholar), Umm ‘Abdillaah al-Waadi’iyyah (حفظها الله تعالى) said in her book “Naseehatee lil-Nisaa’ -My Advice To The Women” (page 297 of the English print):

“…And a religious woman strives and desires for a husband possessing Deen (religious knowledge and action) and the opposite for the opposite, as the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:

“The souls are like gathered armies, so whoever amongst them bonded, became familiar and acquainted from amongst them, then they were in agreement and attracted (to one another) while those whom oppose and rejected one another then they differed and repelled (each other).”

Related by Muslim, (no. 2638) from a Hadeeth Marfoo’ (that which has been raised up and attributed to the Prophet -صلى الله عليه وسلم) narrated by Abee Hurayrah (رضي الله عنه), and it has been reported by Al-Bukhaaree, (no.3336) Mu’allaq (hanging or suspended, which has one or more consecutive narrators deleted from the beginning of it’s Isnaad (chain) and being quoted directly from the Prophet -صلى الله عليه وسلم) from the Hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah (رضي الله عنها).

And an example is in the old saying: “And everyone strives for someone similar to himself.”

And another Mathal (example):

“Certainly, the birds with their many variations gather themselves together with those similar to them.” Or as the English idiom: “Birds of a feather flock together.” So everyone strives and desires for someone similar to him…” [End of her quote.]

And people are as Shaykhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah (رحمه الله تعالى) described them:

“Like the flocks of birds naturally disposed to imitating one another…” [Majmoo’ al-Fataawaa, (28/150).]

And as the poet said,

“Do not ask about a person, rather ask about his companion or associate, since he people usually accompany with those who are similar to themselves.”

Al-’Amash (م سنة 148هـ) – said,

“They (the Salaf) did not used to ask anything more about a person after having asked three affairs, whom he walks with, whom he enters upon, and whom he associates with amongst the people.” [Reported by Imaam ‘Ubaydullaah bin Muhammad Ibn Battah al-‘Unkbaree (م سنة 387هـ) in his book, Ash-Sharh wal-‘Ibaanah ‘ala ‘Usoolis-Sunnah wad-Diyaanah, (vol.2, page.478).]

Ibn Mas’ood رضي الله عنه said,

“Know the people by their friends. The Muslim follows the Muslim and the faajir (disobedient one) accompanies the faajir.”

And he said,

“Verily a man only walks and accompanies one whom he loves and who is like him.”

He also said,

“Know the people by their friends, since a man only befriends one whom he admires and who is like himself.” [Related by Ibn Battah in al-‘Ibaanatul-Kubraa, (vol.2, pages 476-477).]

And Abud-Dardaa’ رضي الله عنه said,

“From the fiqh (understanding) of a person is whom he chooses to walk with, enter upon and sit with.” [al-‘Ibaanah, (vol.2, page.464).]

“…Therefore, choose the best for companionship and friendship; someone who will help you in your mutalabah (quest), in drawing nearer to your Lord, and agrees with you in your noble objective and intention. Take [from me] the most precise gauge in categorizing friends:

1. A friend who befriends you [solely] for his welfare.

2. A friend who befriends you [solely] for fun and entertainment.

3. A friend who befriends you for virtue…”

“…As regards to the first two [categories of friends], then their [relationship] with you is cut off once the necessitating reason [for which they befriended you] is fulfilled: the attainment of welfare in the first and fun in the second…”

“…As for the third category, then this is the one we will concentrate on. He is the one who is driven into a friendship due to mutual belief in the firm establishment of virtue in both people…”

“…And a companion of virtue today is “a hard currency” and difficult to find. [Ash-Shaykh al-‘Allaamah, Bakr Aboo Zayd (رحمه الله تعال) in Hilyati Taalibil-‘Ilm.]

And Al-Imaam ash-Shaafi’ee (المتوفى سنة 204 هـ) said:

“Whoever does not love knowledge then there is no good in him. So there should not be any acquaintance between you and him, and nor any friendship.” [Muqqadimatul-Majmoo’ Sharhil-Muhadhdhab, (vol.1, pg.42).]

He (رحمه الله تعالى) also said:

“My brother! You will not acquire knowledge except by six matters, I will inform you of their detail with an explanation: Intelligence, zeal, striving, competence or proficiency, the companionship of a teacher and a long time!”

I say: So based on this, we see it fit for the Salafee student of knowledge to only befriend the people of Taqwaa (piety), the righteous and if he can make companionship and remain close to an ‘Aalim (scholar for a long time then this is better) and from the bounty of Allaah upon him.

Verily a man will be with the one whom he loves. [Hadeethun Saheeh, al-Mutawaatir, related by al-Bukhaaree, (no. 6168), Muslim, (2640), Aboo Daawood, (no. 5127) and at-Tirmidhee, (no. 2505-2507).]

And everyone strives for someone similar to himself. So beware of befriending anyone from the people of bid’ah (innovation) and hizbiyyah (partisanship), beware of the evil companion and do not befriend the faajir (corrupted, disobedient one), as he will teach you his fujoor (corruption and disobedience).

And prevention is (always) better than cure because people are like the flocks of birds, naturally disposed to imitating one another.

And it has been said: “The winds do not blow or swing as the ships and vessels wish.”

Hadith of the Day 11th November 2018

Messenger of Allah, (ﷺ) said: “When Allah loves a slave, He calls Jibril (Gabriel) and says: ‘I love so-and-so; so love him.’ And then Jibril loves him. Then he (Jibril) announces in the heavens saying: Allah loves so-and-so; so love him; then the inhabitants of the heavens (the angels) also love him; and then people on earth love him. And when Allah hates a slave, He calls Jibril and says: ‘I hate so- and-so, so hate him.’ Then Jibril also hates him. He (Jibril) then announces amongst the inhabitants of heavens: ‘Verily, Allah hates so- and-so, so you also hate him.’ Thus they also start to hate him. Then he becomes the object of hatred on the earth also”. [Muslim, riyad as-salihin 387]

Hadith of the Day 9th November 2018

Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “By Him in Whose Hand my soul is I was about to order for collecting firewood (fuel) and then order someone to pronounce the Adhan for the prayer and then order someone to lead the prayer then I would go from behind and burn the houses of men who did not present themselves for the (compulsory congregational) prayer. By Him, in Whose Hands my soul is, if anyone of them had known that he would get a bone covered with good meat or two (small) pieces of meat present in between two ribs, he would have turned up for the `Isha’ prayer.'[Sahih al-Bukhari 644]

Hadith of the Day 8th November 2018

Allah’s Messenger said: “The best day that the sun has risen upon is Friday. On it Adam was created, on it he entered Paradise, and on it, he was sent down from it. And in it there is an hour in which the Muslim worshipper would not stand in Salat, asking Allah for anything except that He would give it to him.” Abu Hurairah said: “I met Abdullah bin Salam, and I mentioned this Hadith to him. He said: ‘I am more knowledgeable about that hour.’ So I said: ‘Inform me about it, and do not keep any of it from me.’ He said: ‘It is after al-Asr until the sun has set.’ I said: ‘How can it be after Al-Asr when Allah’s Messenger said: ‘ the Muslim worshipper would not stand in Salat.’ And that is a time that prayer is not performed in?” So Abdullah bin Salam said: ‘Didn’t Allah’s Messenger say: “Whoever sat in a gathering awaiting the Salat then he is in Salat”? I said: ‘Of course.’ He said: ‘Then that is it.'” [At-Tirmidhi 491, authenticated by shaykh Al-Albaanee]

Hadith of the Day 7th November 2018

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “He who takes up arms against us is none of us; and he who cheats us is none of us.”

Another narration of Muslim is: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) happened to pass by a heap of corn. He thrust his hand in that (heap) and his fingers felt wetness. He said to the owner of that heap of corn, “What is this?” He replied: “O Messenger of Allah! These have been drenched by rainfall.” He remarked, “Why did you not place this (the drenched part of the heap) over the corn so that people might see it? He who deceives is not of us.” [Muslim, riyad as-salihin 1579]

Hadith of the Day 6th November 2018

Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri (رضي الله عنه) reported: “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) used to seek protection against the evil of jinn and the evil eyes till Surat Al-Falaq and Surat An-Nas were revealed. After they were revealed, he took to them for seeking Allah’s protection and left everything besides them.” [At- Tirmidhi, riyad as-salihin 1015, authenticated by shaykh Al-Albaanee]

Directing One’s Complaints to Allah

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Imam Ibn al-Jawzi (may Allah have mercy upon him) said:

Surely the Salaf used to dislike complaining to the creation. Complaining, even though there is comfort in it, indicates weakness and humiliation. Patience from it is evidence of strength and honor” [at-Thabaat ‘indal-Mamaat (1/55)]

Shaikhul Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allah have mercy upon him) said: “Verily complaints should be directed towards Allah, the Exalted as the pious servant [Ya’qub] said: “I only complain of my grief and sorrow to Allah [12:86]” [Minhaaj us-Sunnah (4/244)]

Is Complaining to Others Haram?

Shaikhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allah have mercy upon him) said: “If he complains to others due to what is in complaining of comfort, just as one afflicted with a calamity complains about his calamity to the people without intending to know what will benefit him nor seeking aid in disobedience, then this decreases his patience. However, it is not absolutely sinful except if it is accompanied with that which is unlawful, like one who is afflicted and is discontent [with the calamity]” [Majmoo’ al-Fatawa (14/463)]

Translated by

Faisal bin Abdul Qaadir bin Hassan
Abu Sulaymaan